Demonstrating Higher Value

•ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE
-David DeAngelo

*We don’t decide who we are attracted to and who we fall in love with.

Premise- There are certain things that trigger our attraction switch.


WAYS WE DEMONSTRATE OUR VALUE

•Demonstrations of Higher Value (DHVs)

•Turns women on

•Demonstrations of Lower Value (DLVs)

•Turns women off


THE 4 ATTRACTION SWITCHES IN WOMEN

•1 - Leader of men.

•2 - Pre-selected by other women.

•3 - Protector of loved ones.

•4 - Willingness to emote (express appropriate emotions)

•Women will feel attracted to a man who has all 4 qualities.

•We need to flip these biological switches in women’s minds.

•We’ll fake it until we make it if need be.

•We try to do this naturally when we brag and show-off.

•Bragging is a DLV, because its try-hard. The woman knows that we are trying to impress her.

•We either demonstrate with people, objects, or props OR with language through stories.

•Goal- Impress her without letting her know we are trying to.


#1 LEADER OF MEN

•Women respond mainly to social status. Does NOT necessarily need to be looks.

•Women are attracted to the leader of a tribe.

•Being involved in a tribe helps too. It shows you’re a part of something- a team, group, or organization which all points to social status.

•We want to be the leader.

•Women will respond to the man with the highest status. Ie. rockstars, politicians, athletes. Even the ugly ones.

•Even if we are not the leader, we can still act like we are.


#2 PRE-SELECTED BY OTHER WOMEN

•Again, social proof.

•If you walk around with an attractive woman, others will perceive you as more attractive. (Law of Contrast & Association)

•We may use a “Pivot”- a woman wingman.

•If we don’t have access to a pivot we can language it.

•During the interaction, we casually mention a model we dated in the past or even a woman “your seeing.”

•Principle- we want things that other people want. Ie. Pokemon


#3 PROTECTOR OF LOVED ONES

•Women will gladly admit to this one.

•They want a man that makes them feel safe.

•This is why women are typically attracted to men with muscular builds and athletes.

•We demonstrate this several ways.

•We side with our friends during the first interaction. Never disagree with your wingman.

•We language it in stories.

•We demonstrate concern over their safety while we’re together.


#4 WILLINGNESS TO EMOTE

•Emote- to show (warranted) emotions.

•We want to show appropriate emotions during our interactions with women.

*So they know you're not faking your smile and are completely unaffected by the world. You can get mad, excited, surprised, etc.

•We do this so they see that our emotional circuitry is normal.


OTHER DHV'S

•Magic

•Story telling

•Interesting Info

*Sharing common interests.

*Knowing stuff about things she"s interested.

•Personality & Humor

•Best Friend Test

•C & U shaped Smiles

•Rings Routine


IMPORTANCE OF BODY LANGUAGE

•Experts say at least 80% of our communication is non-verbal.

•All our material we use is basically an excuse to demonstrate higher value body language.

*Body language is more important than the material.

•The ultimate body language that women respond to is that of the Alpha Male.


ALPHA MALE TRAITS

•Smile when you enter the room

•Open body language

•Maximize space

•Strong (but not freaky) eye contact

•Scans room and makes eye contact with beautiful women (she looks for 1.5 seconds, she’s into you)

•Hands on hips if you need some place to put them (go getter, confident body language).

•Thumbs outside of pockets if you must put your hands there.

•Drink down by your side, not talking into it

•Walk slow through the door look into back of the room and acknowledge the imaginary person

•Walk first to the middle of the room, then to where you want to go.

•Move slowly and decisively

•Move less than other people once in a set

•Walk with head up looking slightly above the horizon.

•Speak loud and clear so everyone in the group can hear you

•Lean back, don’t peck and lean into a set.

•If they cant hear you just speak louder, still don’t lean in (Pecking).

•Directing the crowd around him

•Introduces people to one another

•Applying kino-touching people (in a comfortable way)

•Laughing and having a good time

•Takes the best seat in the house (the middle seat OR the one that has the whole room in view).

•Wear at least one article of clothing someone attracted to you can inquire about (peacock theory-generic isn’t always the best)

•Don’t ask permission-just come out and say it

•Don’t apologize more than once if you need to (superbad).

*Social Skills

*Knowing the Norms

*Good Manners and Etiquette

•Well groomed

•Super Neat and Clean

•Napkin on lap when at dinner

•Don’t eat until everyone’s served

•Get Doors

•Pull out chairs

•Walk on sidewalk closest to road.